Posted at » 8:55:00 AM
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Is it possible to love someone who breaks their word to you- continuously over and over again - over the same matter?
How does it feels like to be on the receiving end?
Point is.
Why promise the other, when you are unable to come to terms with yourself in the beginning? And yet, making empty promises just to see the other smile at the moment a promise had been made... when the time comes to reveal your empty words.............................
Who feels the pain inside?
Who feels like a fool, been fooled around?
Who feels been stabbed by someone trusted?
Who can feel loved?
Just a feeling of emptiness.
Why debate over something that you said but failed to do - Useless excuses, just words as empty as the broken promises.
Promises...
Vows...
Marriages...
Do they mean anything at all?
Do they actually stands for anything, especially to people who live their lives to their very own convenience? To people who's sense of right and wrong is limited to how convenient things are to themselves- even if it means hurting, detriment their love one.
What is love then?
Aren't they just invisible? Aren't they just something of a feeling?
Or have you watched too much TV or naturally believe that this is just part of the life cycle?
They aren't written or printed words on some nicely laminated sheet of card.
So what are the importance of them anyway?
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Nowadays,
Promises are said for sake of calming the moment down, getting one out of tricky situations, for the convenience of gaining trust in the fastest way possible- with or without the thoughts of the consequences and efforts needed to fulfill the promises.
UNBELIEVABLE.
Vows are being twisted by excuses after excuses. Court's vows are simply a form of general procedure, a historical legacy- completely lame. Marriage vows are fake and S.O.P for people who can't even keep their words to the person standing infront of them saying the holy vows, how can they actually believe those vows? So, if I'm taking the vows too seriously... does it mean that vows are "just for fun?" or "for the sake of formality"?
UTTER RUBBISH.
Marriages are formed and broken all the time. I can get married today, divorced tomorrow and married the following week. What does that tell me?
Marriage is just a form of social definition that only humans do to consolidate and conclude that they love this person, and thus wish to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Sweet isn't?
So... what if they met someone else they feel attracted to?
Do what they like?
Cheat?
Leave?
Fling?
or
Believe in their moral conscience?
Do the right thing?
Ask who you've promised, you've said the vows to... ask who you love so deeply... ask who loved you so deeply.
Do you know why they are part of the society, a necessity in Human life?
Simply because, without them... we are the same as all the other living beings/organism.
We have honor.
We feel shame.
We defined what is right and wrong.
We have conscience.
We've learnt the word- Respect.
This is what I think- in a more Humane approach.
When I promise someone.
I make sure my promises to that person holds.
Till my promises are fulfilled or till the person rejects the promises made to them.
Of course, I'm not that naive to believe that the World around me work this way too.
Times have changed when words are just smiles and laughter - empty and lonely.
When people I'm not familiar with tells me something, promise me something- I don't trust them, nor I believe a word they say. I'll observe and decide on what I should do.
And...
I will always trust the ones I loved.
There isn't any reasons to begin with but... if you want a reason- it is simple really.
If there isn't even absolute trust between you and your closest ones, life will be horrible.
Honestly, I'm quite troubled by all these things.
I've spoken around, yet the only reply I can get is "relax" , "don't be so strict", "close one eye"
But... do they know , I'm not talking about the general public, strangers, friends.
I'm talking about people you loved, trusted and people whom you can let yourself go because you feel safe.
Your love ones.
When I ask them, so how does it feel to be 'betrayed'(stronger word to describe) by the one you trusted- not once, not twice, but time and time again? If you were to let things be, close one eye, won't your words come to deaf ears eventually? Am I the wrong one to believe it is the right thing to do to hold up to your words, no matter how much efforts you need to put in to fight your own desires- just simply because you love the ones you promised to, and thus you do not wish to hurt them, break their heart by breaking the very promise you said to them?
Silence was the answer they give me.
They can't give me a answer.
If people are selfish enough to believe that they could have a happier life by lying to the ones they love or finding excuses for their broken words.
I really would like to sit back, and observe how they do it.
The ending is really obvious.
Broken promises=empty words
Solitary lives bonded together only by that laminated sheet of paper
It is really naive and utterly stupid to believe that a relationship is only about smiles and laughter... maybe it is for the first 1month or so, but the rest... it is all hard work and sacrifices.
I can't believe that I'm even writing this.
Here's one of my all-time favourites, one of rare songs from Mayday.
罗密欧与茱丽叶- 五月天
作词:阿信 作曲:阿信 编曲:五月天
没有轰轰烈烈剧情 没有朱门恩怨背景
实在让人夜里心定 翻覆的天地
开始总是一场沉迷 而我在你家楼下等你
于是我胡涂说出一句 我不能没有你
唱过了一首又一首插曲 枕头之上的漫长旅行
我已经开始有点忘记当初的原因
有一种狂热让我们生病 一场华丽而快乐的病
睁开了双眼看不到东西 yeah~
其实是莎翁一场诡计 故事的终点不是殉情
被困在童话之外我和你 要往哪里去
而爱情本来就是种考验 当耗尽所有激情与好奇
上天给人们一些小甜蜜和一卡车难题
有一种狂热让我们生病 一场华丽而快乐的病
睁开了双眼看不到东西 yeah~~
有一个漩涡让我们躲避 真实世界有什么刺激
闭上了双眼却看到了你 yeah~~
有一种狂热让我们生病 一场华丽而快乐的病
睁开了双眼看不到东西 yeah~~
有一个漩涡让我们躲避 真实世界有什么刺激
闭上了双眼却看到了你 yeah~~ yeah~ yeah~~
多希望世界就快要消失
好让我俩享受没有明天
即使是电光石火幻觉
罗密欧与茱丽叶~
我/
Peter
A.D 1986 -
Adores
Life itself
Always glad to be alive and well. ^_^
DETESTS
Sickness & Death itself
It would be... meaningless. -_-'''
S pirit sings inside
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